Michael Bibb RLP®

There is nothing special about me. In my 48 years on the planet, I have no sporting badges or trophies of merit from my younger days. I am Joe Ordinary. So, let us begin and hopefully some sparks will fly, and you may find, as I did, your ordinary self doing something ‘extra’ ordinary. 

The Marathon Des Sable (MDS) has been called the ‘World’s toughest foot race’—six marathons in seven days, being self-sufficient, carrying all your kit and food for the seven days through the Sahara, for most, would put the fear of God in them—so why am I standing on the start line of this, the 34th MDS? There are a couple people I could hold to account for this: Joseph Campbell who wrote that we should ‘Follow our Bliss,’ George Kinder when he reminds us to live ‘on purpose’ and to dig for the treasures that we all have buried inside of us, or a much over looked screenwriter, who in 1976 wrote a film that was to become a friend of mine. That same writer also said, ‘I may not be the tallest, fastest or prettiest, but I just want to take a shot at it and then I’ll know’. The film was called Rocky, eponymously written and played by Sylvester Stallone.  

Everyone loves the story of the underdog, the ‘Hero’s Journey’ as Campbell has framed it. You know the tale, someone living a life but knowing that inside them there is more. So, too, did I feel that there is something, some act that has not been done, a box that is unchecked, unfinished business that I have to get done, to live with intention and get closer to what fulfilled might look like for me. So, I arrive in the desert armed only with my alter ego ‘Rocky’ and a whole backpack full of expedition foods and my vision. My vision to do The Marathon Des Sables, not for me but for my four kids, to show them that anything is possible; for my clients to believe that it is doable, to help as many people as I can on the way; and for my friends, to borrow from Coldplay, we really are ‘diamonds taking shape’—we all have greatness inside us.

But hold on, hold on, I hear you say as the obstacles start talking to you, “you must be able to train a lot and I don’t have time for that” (for lots of reasons I couldn’t train a lot), or “I am too old” (the oldest competitor was 83, with many 60- and 70-year-olds taking part), or “my knees” or the like. I saw two athletes with prosthetic limbs not only start MDS but rip it up, and there was a blind chap too, yes, you read that right. So, your reasons for why you couldn’t possibly ever do anything like 150 miles through the desert have been silenced by those who have come before you and took that road ‘less travelled’. Please understand I am not recruiting for The Marathon Des Sable, this is just a story of how something that seems impossible has been made possible and has been done by some 30,000 people who got through, over, under, or around their obstacles. So, if you have something you want to do in your life, do it, don’t wait. The Red Hot Chili Peppers tell us that ‘This life is more than just a readthrough.’

What is your Marathon of the sand? What is that thing that you have buried as ‘life’ gets in the way? Will you look at the time past as a big insurmountable desert, impossible to cross with all your baggage, or make your time count and use it to find your buried treasure in the sand? You already know where your X marks the spot, go to that island where you cleverly buried it and have since come up with lots of reasons not to visit that secret island again. Please get out your treasure maps, go get your treasure whatever it is, wherever it is, yes the journey may be arduous and you can talk yourself out if it easily, but this is your call to action, suit up and go do that thing you just have got to do. It’s ready and waiting for you. “Maktub” as some say across the finishing here in Morocco, ‘It is written.’

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Michael Bibb Co-Founder & Financial Life Planner.
Michael Bibb, DIPpfs, is the Financial Planner at CarpeDiem Financial and has more than 20 years of Financial Services experience, directly linked to fulfilling customer’s financial goals. He’s a father of four, almost knocking in the door of 50 and hearing that voice saying: ‘Do not go gentle into that good night, rage, rage against the dying of the light’. He learned to do the front crawl stroke three years ago and now is taking on his sixth half Ironman and fourth full Ironman this summer. Michael says, “I want my clients to have their most interesting life – I am duty bound to do the same.” Find out more about Michael and CarpeDiem Financial at https://www.carpediemfinancial.co.uk

Do you have a story to tell? We want to hear your Journey in Life Planning. Email lora.woodward@kinderinstitute.com, to express interest in being featured in the Kinder Institute blog.

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Morgan Ranstrom CFA, CFP®, RLP®

Each time I think about Life Planning and how it’s helped me, I can’t help but smile.

I started the Registered Life Planning program in the Spring of 2016 at a 7 Stages of Money Maturity workshop in Chicago. At the time, I was a bit lost in my career. I’m an introvert and early in my career I gravitated toward managing investments instead of working directly with clients as a financial planner. However, I found myself feeling disconnected and lonely. There’s value in optimizing investment portfolios for long-term success, but I desired something more. I wanted to help people by combining financial planning skills with life coaching skills and having impactful conversations around meaning and personal aspirations. That’s how I found the life planning movement, and ultimately the Kinder Institute.    

I showed up to the Seven Stages of Money Maturity 2-day Workshop ready to learn how to help my clients. What I received was something more profound. I was life planned. In hindsight, before learning how to positively impact people’s financial lives, everything about my own had to change. 

I’ll never forget the feeling of being the ‘client’ in front of the class for our incredible facilitator, Mary Zimmerman, as she went through my answers to the Three Questions. Not once in my life had I been listened to like that, and within a moment of extreme vulnerability in front of my peers, everything became clear.

Within two weeks of that initial training, I was implementing a plan to leave my old firm to start a new financial life planning business. Trailhead Planners, a firm I co-founded with my sister, Courtney Ranstrom, is now nearing its fourth year of existence and we have never looked back.  

In my 20s, I recorded a couple of albums of original music. I have played guitar and written songs since I was a teenager, and I loved playing live shows. But a mistake by my producer on my second album led to me unwittingly printing one thousand albums with sound impurities on a few of the tracks. I was a tentative artist to begin with, but that mistake led me to feel great shame, as if my music and my art would never be good enough. I slowly stopped playing live shows and writing new songs. Eventually, I rarely even picked up my guitar. 

I attended the EVOKE Life Planning Training 5-day in the Fall of 2016 with Kinder trainers, Rosemarie McKinnon and Ed Jacobson, two wonderful facilitators and mentors. My partner for the 5-day was Christine Macdonald, an empathic and top-notch life planner from Portland, Maine. Once again, I found myself in front of the class being life planned; however, I was more confident this time around. Surely, by now, I had it all figured out, right?

Wrong. During our ‘Obstacles’ conversation, Christine looked at me and said, “I think you’re a blocked-artist. I think you need to put your albums online and let others listen to them.” The room felt crushingly small. I nodded my head. She was right.   

A few weeks later, my personal torch statement burning inside of me, I submitted my music to iTunes and Spotify. I cried. And then, in the ensuing days and weeks, the most magical thing happened. I started writing again.  

I was originally drawn to the Kinder Institute by reading George Kinder’s books. Though admittedly, as an aspiring author myself, I was concerned that the book I wanted to write on money and meaning had already been written a few times over by George himself! Laughingly, I expressed this to George when he stopped by our 5-day Training to meet us, answer questions, and discuss his latest book, A Golden Civilization and the Map of Mindfulness.

Later, George wrote us all notes. Mine said, “Morgan, I wrote my books. Go write yours.” With my inner-artist motivated and revived, I did just that. Early in 2019, Wisdom Editions published my first book, Money with Purpose: Receive the Dividends of an Undivided Financial Life. The initial response has been incredible.     

I owe the seeds of my current life to the Kinder Institute and the life planning process.  For that I am eternally grateful.

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Morgan Ranstrom, CFA, CFP® 
Co-Founder & Financial Life Planner

4816 Nicollet Ave, Minneapolis, MN 55419
https://trailheadplanners.com
(503) 773-9682

Morgan Ranstrom, CFA, CFP®, RLP®, is a co-founder and financial life planner at Trailhead Planners in Minneapolis, MN. He has released two studio albums of his own music (SpotifyiTunes) and is the author of Money with Purpose: Receive the Dividends of an Undivided Financial Life.

Do you have a story to tell? We want to hear your Journey in Life Planning. Email lora.woodward@kinderinstitute.com, to express interest in being featured in the Kinder Institute blog.

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The Fourth Question

By Adam Wells

Each time I think about Life Planning and how it’s helped me, I can’t help but smile.

The dictionary definition of the verb evoke means to bring a feeling, memory, or picture into the mind. 

‘the smells, sounds and colours evoked pleasant memories of his childhood’.

As a life planner, through the EVOKE process, I invite you to tell the living story of your life.  I get the privilege to listen to your past, present and, in particular, the yet to be written story of your future.

Telling your life story is important because every story has the power to inform, inspire, guide, persuade, entertain, educate, open hearts, create laughter/tears, heal and transform.

In times past, elders in traditional communities, through stories, fairytales and myths, passed down through the generations their customs, culture and wisdom to ensure survival of the community.  Rituals and stories helped the individual to see the world more clearly and equally make sense of their ‘place’ within it.

In modern times, such cultural traditions, in many ways, have been lost.  The industrial age undermined our connection to nature and the individual is now left to fathom out by themselves how to transition through never ending change.  Ecological crisis, climate change, ethnic conflict, global warfare, financial debt crisis are all examples of immediate challenges for today’s communities.

The EVOKE life planning process involves answering four questions.  The first three questions ask you to consider your life: 

1) I want you to imagine that you are financially secure, that you have enough money to take care of your needs, now and in the future.  The question is…how would you live your life?  Would you change anything? Let yourself go. Don’t hold back on your dreams.  Describe a life that is complete, that is richly yours. 

2) This time you visit your doctor who tells you that you have only 5-10 years to live. The good part is that you won’t ever feel sick. The bad news is that you will have no notice of the moment of your death. What will you do in the time you have remaining to live?  Will you change your life and how will you do it?

3) This time your doctor shocks you with the news that you only have one day left to live. Notice what feelings arise as you confront your very real mortality. Ask yourself:  What did I miss?,  Who did I not get to be?  What did I not get to do?

The fourth question goes beyond your life and asks you to contemplate your vision for a better world future and what you can do to create the world you would wish to live in.

4) Imagine you are the wise elder of your family and community.  What world you would like your grandchildren, great grandchildren, great, great grandchildren to live in?  What lifestyle changes/actions (large or small) can you take today to ensure the sustainbility of the human family and natural world around you for generations to come? 

Whilst walking Spain’s Camino de Santiago pilgrimage path a few years ago, I met Paul.  He told me the following story:

‘On my first Camino ten years ago, an elderly man in his eighties would always be the last person to arrive at the hostel. I watched him almost collapse into his bunk bed for the first three consecutive nights of the Camino journey and because of his frailty, during each of those nights, I was convinced that he was going to die in his sleep   And frighteningly, on each arrival, he was more exhausted than the day before.

I finished my Camino walk in Santiago de Compostela 790km/500 miles later, toured around the Galicia region and returned back to Santiago.  By now it would have been around seven weeks since I started the Camino walk in St Jean Pied-de-Port.  Anyway, one afternoon, I went for lunch in a restaurant.  Whilst I was eating, the door opened and, you never guess what, in walked that old man.  Our eyes connected with an intensity: you remember the pilgrims from the beginning of your Camino.  I got up from the table, walked over to him and we hugged each other.  He told me that he had just arrived into Santiago de Compostela and finished his Camino that morning. I cried in that moment and I also learned an important life lesson: ‘age is not a barrier to doing anything if the will is there.’

If ‘age is not a barrier to doing anything if the will is there’, what will you do today to transform your world and the world around you?  

After all, to evoke the story of your life may well be your greatest legacy of all.

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Adam Wells | Life Planner & Personal Coach | El Camino Ltd 
http://adamwells.com 

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Integrated Life Planning

The small man builds cages
for everyone he knows.
While the sage, who has to duck his head
when the moon is low,
keeps dropping keys all night long
for the beautiful rowdy prisoners.
                        Hafiz

Written by Miriam Whiteley

With the yearning to fill our pockets with keys we came to our EVOKE® Life Planning 5-Day Training in Hana, Hawaii in December 2017. I flew in the night before it started, and as the sun rose on Maui, I walked to get a coffee. I looked up at the purple mountain rising before me, perfectly encircled with a ring of cloud at its very tip. “Yes,” I thought to myself, “I’m so close, and there’s still a cloud over it all—however nebulous—that’s holding me back.”

After the wild ride to Hana, we sorted out how the week would go, met our housemates and paired up with our life planners. As the week progressed it became clear that my life planner, my housemate, and I had forged a connection. Sheila, Charley, and I decided that we did not want to let the work we started in Hana wither. The three of us decided to mentor each other and keep our life plans alive. We have been connecting every two weeks by phone.

During the six-month mentorship we had a weekly conference call that shifted to a biweekly schedule through the next stage—now we’re RLP® certified but are we dropping keys yet? On our clients, and on each other? We stoked the flames of our torches and held each other’s feet to the fire of our best intentions. We shared triumphs when we saw them, but more often the achievements were so gradual as perceived from the inside that it was through the reflected praise of our trio-mates that we could see how far we’d come.

We floundered a little around the anniversary of Hana and pondered on our call what direction we wanted to take. Each of us was meeting the truth of Jon Kabat-Zinn’s line, “Wherever you go, there you are.” We’d lived our life plan, some more than less, but our life of freedom was feeling confined, bound by the inner voices that were talking about the same things they always have.

If each of us had a key we carried away from Hana (you might read it in George Kinder’s voice, as we received it), Charley’s was: “Why wouldn’t you do this, this is your life plan?” He boarded the plane for home ready to shoot out of the cave. At home, tucked back in the cave, he looked through the opening and heard the familiar refrain of his monkey mind: “It’s dangerous out there; why do I want to leave the cave again?” Sheila got right to work, fueled by the vigor fountain she tasted in Hana, and discovered her days often felt breathless. She found herself asking, “What if shortening the time horizon results in a pace that’s not authentic? We want to create flames to exit the cave, but we don’t want to burn people out!” My key was “give yourself permission to exhale—set down your sack.” The doubt door didn’t unlock with this key—”Give myself permission to do what? What if thing 1 (write a book, promote my niche) comes at the cost of thing 2 (connecting with husband and children, hearth tending)?”

We were wondering—if this is happening for us, this will happen for our clients too, right? Do we need coaches? Are we doing it wrong? We decided to life plan each other again.

If you’re game to try it with your pair or trio from your five-day, this is how it worked. We set a timeline and structure: three calls, 60 minutes each, two weeks apart. A week before the first call, we sent each other our 3Qs and HCG. Call 1: one of us did 10 minutes each of Explore/Vision with the other two (i.e., 20 minutes per person). Homework: craft two torches. Call 2: deliver torches, again each of us getting 10 minutes for the other two. Homework: notice obstacles and establish accountability metrics to overcome them. Call 3: obstacle check-in and share metrics.

The next call was with our mentor, Ed Jacobson, who had generously offered to join one of our calls. As we made arrangements for the call with Ed, he suggested we condense our anniversary torches. I found this a fabulous exercise, and a wonderful page in my Planner has the combined torch I synthesized from what Sheila and Charley created for me, a “mini-torch,” this condensed version, and a “micro-torch,” a distillation that has helped me hold fast to the key.

We shared our process with Ed, and we brought our questions. At the core of them was how to integrate life planning in a way that puts us in a flowing current, instead of furiously paddling (Sheila), going around in circles (me), or inwardly shrieking to get back on dry land (Charley). Ed, ever the sage, reminded us that we went to Hana on purpose and took home the experience of the value of clarity. He urged us to recommit to practices that strengthen equanimity and awareness, to help us listen to these inner voices with empathy and go about the next step of EVOKE: knowledge. With better data and reconnaissance, we can leave the cave.

We’re onto the next phase of our biweekly calls and have settled on holding each other accountable to doing a Sunday Review, and setting three desired outcomes for life, work, and personal realms. We’ll approach the call by sharing first, “I’m going to . . . (examples: tell you why I didn’t do the Sunday Review, or share three outcomes).” I’d like you to . . . (gauge progress, sense alignment, reflect praise)” so the other two know how to listen. It’s a work in progress, as are we all. For now, we’re delighted to be rowdy prisoners on this adventure together.


Biographies

Charley Herbert,CFP®  is the Director of Sales and Marketing for Bradley, Foster, Sargent, a money management firm in Hartford, CT. Charley has 36 years of experience in the financial services industry, starting with Dean Witter Reynolds in 1983, and he’s been with BFS since 2003. Charley is chair of the board for Copper Beech Institute, a mindfulness organization based in West Hartford, CT. He is on the board of Wheeler Clinic, a mental health agency in central CT. Charley earned a B.S. in business administration from Rochester Institute of Technology and an M.B.A from California Lutheran University. Charley is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional. He attended the 5-day EVOKE training in Hana in December 2017 and needs the 2-day for full qualification for his RLP®. Charley is married; he and Karen have two grown daughters.

cherbert@bfsinvest.com Charley lives in Avon, CT.

Miriam Whiteley, CFP®, RLP® is a financial advisor with Roehl & Yi Investment Advisors LLC in Eugene, OR, an independent and locally owned wealth management firm that takes a financial planning approach. Miriam earned a B.S. in Business/Finance from California State University, Long Beach, and intended to have a financial planning career. Her life plan shifted to mothering and then becoming a Waldorf class teacher. About 12 years ago she read Lighting the Torch, and it reignited the spark. She made a career change in 2016, became a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ professional. a Registered Life Planner and earned an End of Life Care and Support certificate to enhance her understanding of the aging process, and to be of assistance to clients at the intersection of money, health, and end-of-life issues. Miriam enjoys helping clients prepare rather than repair when dealing with the stream of transitions that aging brings. The expression of Miriam’s passion for the power of education, art and music to bring us to states of awe and connection has moved from the classroom to her volunteer work, and she serves on the Board of Trustees of a private high school serving at-risk students, on the Advisory Board of the Oregon Bach Festival and is a hospice volunteer and sings at bedside with the Eugene Threshold Singers.

mwhiteley@roehl-yi.com Miriam lives in Eugene, OR

Sheila Padden,CFP®, RLP® founded Padden Financial Planning LLC in Chicago, IL, to provide comprehensive, fee-only financial planning for individuals and families. Focused on the big picture, Sheila puts the pieces of the puzzle together to define goals, optimize investments, minimize taxes, and create a roadmap for reaching goals and financial independence. As a fee-only fiduciary, Sheila accepts no commissions or referral fees – ever. As a CPA for over 25 years, Sheila brings a long history of integrity, quality and value. Sheila is a CERTIFIED FINANCIAL PLANNER™ Certificant, a NAPFA-Registered Financial Advisor, and a Registered Life Planner. Sheila graduated with Honors from the University of Notre Dame and holds a Bachelor’s of Business Administration in Accountancy. She completed Northwestern University’s Certified Financial Planning Program, and the Kinder Institute of Life Planning Program. Sheila was the first national chair of Notre Dame Women Connect and NDWC’s Chicago co-chair for several years. Sheila has been quoted in numerous publications including the Wall Street Journal, U.S. News & World Report, and Kiplinger’s Personal Finance. Sheila has been a guest advisor on Wharton Business Radio. Sheila is married to Mike Padden and they have four children, including twins.

Sheila@paddenfinancial.com Sheila lives and works in Chicago, IL

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Life Planning Success Stories


by Randy Gardner  4/19

Yesterday, I awoke in a funk, wondering how I could come up with a second case in less than a month. I had lots of work to do getting ready for upcoming presentations and, thankfully, only one meeting scheduled for the day. The meeting was with Dev (short for Devastated) at our comfortable and well-appointed satellite meeting location, about 25 minutes from our main office in Laguna Beach.

Dev is 83, has pancreatic cancer, and is still working, as he prepares to pass his property and casualty insurance agency on to his son, Dev III, who is in his 40s. The doctors “opened [Dev] up” to perform the very-risky Whipple surgery earlier this year, but the surgeon after four hours “closed him up” because the tumor was wrapped around a major blood vessel and was inoperable at that time. Dev switched doctors to a renowned surgeon who is successfully shrinking the tumor with radiation in anticipation of “going back in” and completing the Whipple surgery in late July 2018. In April, shortly after the first surgery, Dev lost his 82-year-old wife to congestive heart failure. She and Dev were married 55 years ago in Los Angeles, where they lived their adult lives.

Dev and I met to discuss trust administration issues and gather information for the Form 706 Estate Tax Return for Dev’s deceased wife. With the agency and rental properties Dev and his wife owned, their estate is valued at over $15 million. We are preparing the form to make the portability election so her $11.18 exclusion can pass to Dev. Dev wants to complete it before his surgery so, in case he “doesn’t make it,” his estate will pass to Dev III, Forlorn (their daughter), and their three grandchildren with a stepped-up income tax basis and no estate tax.

Obviously, Dev has plenty to think about, but during our meeting, I could tell something else was on Dev’s mind. So, as we were wrapping up the Form 706 discussion, I asked “Is there anything else you want to talk about?” He choked up, and I asked what was wrong. He said “It’s Forlorn, my daughter. My wife and I have owned a lake cabin with acreage in the mountains for over 40 years. It’s been in my family since it was built in the 1920s. My wife and I had some of our favorite times there and I thought the kids and grandkids had fond memories as well. When I mentioned the property to my daughter the other day, she said, ‘Dad, don’t worry about it. Dev III and I will probably just sell the property anyway.’ I was shocked. I don’t want them to sell it. I talked to Dev III. He doesn’t want to sell it!!! I don’t know what to do!!! If she is a co-owner, she could force the sale of the property. What can I do???”

I listened, nodding and saying “Oooh, no!” when he told me what his daughter had said, thinking either she is thoughtless or just trying to relieve her father of any concerns, not realizing she had probably just pushed him over the edge. I said to Dev, “I understand your concern and have some ideas, but first, with your permission, I would like to ask you some questions from the Life Planning program I am in.” He said he had no plans for the day and that would be fine. I reached into my large work bag and pulled out my Life Planning Worksheets and Torch Script from the EVOKE binder so I could do it by the book.

Question 1: I want you to imagine that you are financially secure, that you have enough money to take care of your needs, now and in the future. The question is…how would you live your life? Would you change anything? Let yourself go. Don’t hold back on your dreams.

Describe a life that is complete, that is richly yours.

He said he would spend his fortune to be healthy if he could, and then followed with “That’s actually not true. I want my children and grandchildren to be taken care of. Even as I schedule these tests and doctor visits and now this surgery, I have one eye on the bills making sure there is actually a benefit to the payments I am making so I can leave my wife’s and my wealth to the kids.” I asked about travel, and he said he and his wife did a lot of that. He loved traveling in their RV, but it is hard to do alone and too much work for him at his age. He said he really enjoys the cabin the most.

Question 2: This time you visit your doctor who tells you that you have only 5–10 years left to live. The good part is that you won’t ever feel sick. The bad news is that you will have no notice of the moment of your death. What will you do in the time you have remaining to live?

Will you change your life and how will you do it?

“I am lucky,” he said. “I have the kind of pancreatic cancer that is normally treatable by the surgery, so I am optimistic this will give me another five years.” He said he cannot travel far currently because of the treatments, but he has been spending time at the lake cabin and wants to spend as much time with his children and grandchildren in LA and at the cabin as he can. He said he wants them to love it like he does.

Question 3: This time your doctor shocks you with the news that you have only one day left to live. Notice what feelings arise as you confront your very real mortality. Ask yourself:

What did I miss? Who did I not get to be?

What did I not get to do?

Probably because it was fresh on his mind, he said he would really regret it if the lake property was developed or left the family. He said his son is mostly ready to take over his insurance business, but he would regret not helping him more. He finished with not being able to spend more time with the family.

He needed to take a bathroom break which gave me the opportunity to collect my thoughts and prepare a torch. I knew the tinder was the cabin and keeping it in the family, the insurance agency, and family togetherness. A successful surgery was there, too, but obviously that was nothing I could deliver.

When he returned, from notes, this is what I said: “If as a consequence of our work together, I/we were to deliver to you in a month, on the Sunday before your surgery, a moment when your family was together at your home for a meal. You all had just attended church, and after the meal, your son said. ‘Dad, I appreciate the opportunity I have had to work with you and all the effort you have made to get me ready to take over the business. I am ready, and I will take care of your clients like you have.’ You reminisced with the family about times when everyone was together in LA, the cabin, and on trips. Your daughter said ‘Dad, I appreciate you explaining your estate plan to all of us. I love the lake cabin, too, and understand how much it means for you to keep it in the family.’ The changes you made lay out the ground rules for using the property and ensure that the property will always be owned by direct descendants. How would that be for you?” He had already pulled tissues, but when he finished he pulled more, as did I.

When he finally spoke after almost a minute, he said, “That would be great! Can we really do that?” I felt the torch was definitely lit; with tears, he was more enthusiastic and upbeat than he had been since coming to the office.

Dev and I talked about putting a restriction in the property deed or creating an incentive trust but dismissed those options because the courts are not always favorable to sale restrictions. We discussed a detailed limited liability company agreement with rules for family usage, a lottery for holidays, and sharing of ownership expenses, similar to what we set up for vacation homes. However, we ruled that out because he prefers not to see the property rented. In the end, he directed me to draft a tenancy-in-common agreement with terms similar to the vacation home LLC agreement. We will amend the trust so that the property goes directly to the descendants as tenants in common, subject to the terms of the tenancy-in-common agreement. He will sign the trust amendment in two weeks.

Another solution to this issue is for Dev to bring the remark up to Forlorn and have Dev convey to her how much the cabin means to him and how he does not want her to sell it. Hopefully, this agreement will open that conversation and take away the bulk of the incentive to do that.

As we wrapped up our discussion, we were both reaching for the tissues again. He was so visibly relieved, and I was so happy to see him that way and grateful to have the tool box to relieve him.

In my opinion, in two weeks when we Execute, by delivering the trust amendment and tenancy-in-common agreement, I will have completed the five steps of the EVOKE process. I have completed the “Exploration” and “Vision” steps in the process. We moved through Obstacles by examining the tools in the tool box, evaluating them, and picking the best one (Knowledge).

This plan just came together so well and so quickly. I hope the removal of this concern will help him survive the surgery. Once again, the personal connection the Life Planning process has created strengthened a client relationship plus brought relief to a troubled man.

I think Life Planning does not have to be centered on home runs. Life Planning can be done in the form of base hits and, over a long-term relationship, the opportunity for base hits will come up at every meeting. Life Planning gives you the big picture, and the more you know about a client, the better you can plan for them, even with the minor decisions.

Every day, I am grateful for the opportunities given to us, the skills we have been given, and how they can be used to make others’ lives better.

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Biography – Randy Gardner is the Founder of Goals Gap Planning, LLC, a holistic, personal financial planning firm, providing group and one-on-one financial education to professionals and individuals. Randy also works as a tax and estate planning attorney with Estate Plan, Inc. Previously, Randy was a Professor of Tax and Estate Planning at the University of Missouri. He has taught and practiced for over 35 years.

Randy is the coauthor of the books, The Closing Wealth Transfer Window (with Leslie Daff), 101 Tax Saving Ideas (with Julie Welch), and Tools and Techniques of Income Tax Planning, and co-editor of WealthCounsel Estate Planning Strategies (with Leslie Daff). Randy serves on the Editorial Board of The Journal of Financial Planning and has written over 100 articles for publications, such as The Journal of Financial Planning, Taxation for Accountants, Practical Tax Strategies, and Tax Adviser.

Randy earned: a Bachelor of Arts degree, cum laude, from Harvard University; his JD and MBA degrees from the University of Kansas; and a Master of Laws in Taxation from the University of Missouri.

RGardner@EstatePlanInc.com

Randy lives and works in Laguna Beach, CA and Las Vegas, NV.

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Sidney Divine CFP®, ChFC®, RLP®

Sidney Divine

Each time I think about Life Planning and how it’s helped me, I can’t help but smile.

I first heard about Financial Life Planning when I was relatively new to the finance industry and eager to become successful. I had such a strong desire to do well that I decided to look up some of the top producers within my company to see if they’d be willing to speak with me about their achievements.

About five calls into the process, I spoke with a planner who left me with a lasting impression. What stood out about this conversation was the planner’s conviction. It was the first time I heard the words Financial Life Planning used together. He said that if a potential client didn’t want to engage in the Financial Life Planning process, then they just weren’t right for him to work with. He’d leave them at the end of the meeting better than he found them but wouldn’t proceed with working with them as a client. He felt as if Financial Life Planning was what he was put here on earth to do and as such he wouldn’t be living into all he’s supposed to be to the clients or to himself if he did anything else. He believed that morally and ethically he couldn’t make a sale or a recommendation without truly knowing the client, and the Life Planning process was a way to truly know them.

Immediately I began to question just how much business he had left and was continuing to leave on the table. I could not for the life of me wrap my head around it. I thought back on that conversation for quite some time. Over the following months and years of us staying in touch in a mentor-mentee capacity, I learned more about Life Planning and even began to embark upon a variation of it that I liked to call “Life Planning Lite”.

After conducting many meetings of Life Planning Lite, I had more questions and naturally felt like there were things that still weren’t getting uncovered. With that, I decided to finally see firsthand what Life Planning truly was by signing up for the Kinder Institute of Life Planning’s training program. It was a full three years from that initial conversation with my mentor.

I remember heading into the 2-Day training not really having too many expectations. I’d heard so many great things about it and based on my experience utilizing my lite version of Life Planning, I saw how deep the conversations got when getting to know the clients. I didn’t want to be let down. On day one, I left thinking how could I have even possibly thought this could be a letdown. It was that powerful. I knew then that I wanted to continue with the 5-Day EVOKE training. The work with my clients would become even more impactful once I took the 5-Day!

When I came back from the 5-Day training, it was noticeable to myself and others that something had changed in me. Once all about work, I came back with a deeper and better understanding of what was truly important to me, and I began to pursue those things immediately!

Just as important, I began to see how much better a planner I’d become with my clients. The first client I started to life plan had been a client of mine for two years. Prior to the 5-Day training, you couldn’t tell me that I didn’t know her and hadn’t done a great job as her financial planner. In those two years, she introduced me to many of her friends that would become future clients. I felt truly involved in her finances and her life.

Life Planning her immediately showed me how much I didn’t know about her. During the Exploration meeting, I was able to find out so many things that had not once come up before in our conversations. When I delivered her torch statement, she shed tears and, more importantly, the work beyond that has thrived and she’s thriving.

There are just so many different examples of how Life Planning has impacted the lives of my clients. These are a few:

  • The client who decided to say “Yes!” to his life and enjoy time with his family by planning a couple of camping trips;
  • The client who flew with his wife to watch a deciding game 7 that featured his favorite player;
  • The client who relocated to be closer to her family;
  • The client who is fulfilling a lifetime goal of traveling to Japan;
  • For me, the overworked workaholic who knew there was always more to life than work but never really took the time to explore.

Life Planning has been life-changing. I’m so fortunate for my mentor Stephen Brody, my 5-Day family including the great facilitators, and most importantly for my clients who bless me each day with the opportunity to help them plan and be a part of seeing their deepest dreams realized!

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Sidney R. Divine, CFP®, ChFC®, RLP®
Divine Wealth Strategies

Financial Planner
http://www.divinewealthstrategies.com

Upon graduating from LaGrange College in 2011, Sidney pursued his dream to help good people live better lives. By 2014, he had earned the title of Financial Planner and began to work with his clients by helping them optimize cash flow, manage risks, and plan for their investment and retirement needs. In 2015 and 2016, Sidney was nominated for Financial Planner of the year; an award he proudly earned in 2017 while being ranked within the top 2 percent of 1,875 planners nationally within the Fortune 500 firm.

Sidney’s belief in education since the beginning as a Financial Planner has seen him earn the Certified Financial Planner (CFP) designation, the Chartered Financial Consultant (ChFC) designation, and the Registered Life Planner (RLP) designation from the Kinder Institute of Life Planning.

Upon earning the RLP designation, Sidney fully embraced his new role as being a Financial Life Planner. As such, he works with clients to help them align their financial realities with the lives they aspire to live. He does this by engaging in a client-centered process that delivers freedom to clients, namely the freedom to pursue life’s passions, wherever they may lead.

Sidney also believes strongly in serving the community. He has served in numerous roles working with youth to empower them to live more inspired lives. Much of this work has taken place on the foundation that sports and athletics can help build confidence and bolster the role of teamwork and citizenship.

No matter your needs, you will find Sidney to be a trusted advisor that educates you, advises you, and helps you bring clarity to your money and peace to your life.

Do you have a story to tell? We want to hear your Journey in Life Planning. Email lora.woodward@kinderinstitute.com, to express interest in being featured in the Kinder Institute blog.

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“The Whole Financial Planning Process is Wrong” Expert Says

“The whole financial planning process is wrong,” says George Kinder, widely recognized as one of the chief educators and influencers in the financial planning profession.

But what exactly does he mean, and how does he justify this bold statement?

First, let’s separate the work of financial planning into two different elements–let’s call the first quantitative analysis and the second qualitative analysis.

Read full article here.

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Jenny Hoff Podcast Interview

March 30, 2017

Read or listen to Jenny Hoff’s interview/podcast with George Kinder

Dubbed the “father of life planning” and author of the seminal book on money, “The Seven Stages of Money Maturity,” George Kinder has been an investment and wealth professional for more than 30 years, coaching thousands of advisers on how to do more than just talk about financial products, but how to get to the root of what people really want in life before creating a financial plan to make it happen.

With decades of experience as a mindfulness and meditation teacher as well, Kinder has a unique insight in helping people find their true wants in life and then finding the ability to fund those dreams. In this episode, Kinder talks about the three most important questions to ask yourself in order to understand your life goals, questions his thousands of advisers ask their clients through the Kinder Institute of Life Planning.

Get Charged Up about planning your life!

http://www.creditcards.com/credit-card-news/episode-13-charged-up-george-kinder.php

Interviewer

Jenny Hoff, creditcards.com

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How Should Investors Respond to Political Uncertainty?

Here what George told Robin Powell about how investors should respond to political uncertainty.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xdEXPPSH6Ic&feature=youtu.be

 

 

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